A new pair of scales

I stopped weighing myself on a regular basis some time in the last 7-8 years. A far cry from when I’d be the scales every day after my 6+ mile run and 2+hr gym workout, trying to get the needle below my magic number.

I’d also keep a log of everything I ate and how many miles I ran, at the end of the day, tally up my total calorie intake and burn, striving for a net figure of 600 calories or so.

This behaviour is an outward reflection of a way of living that I’ve been living my whole life.

It’s based on two works:



I’d aim for deprive (eg Good), and then after a while, couldn’t keep at it any more and the scales would tip to Indulge (eg Bad).

Here’s some examples:

Deprive = measured calorie intake, on the diet, save all my money, hold in all my feelings, work really hard.

Key works there: Measured. Hard. Work.

Indulge = binge, eat more than I ‘should’, spend all my money, explode in someone’s face, duvet day.

No key words there, but the underlying achievement was temporary release and false pleasure.

Although the bulimia has stopped, the spending more even, and I let myself feel a lot more feelings than I used to, that old pattern has still been the default.

I’m learning another way though.

When I practice it, it brings balance, peace, and is a lot more sustainable.

The new scales: Pleasure & Nourishment.

If my choice of the day gives me any sense of real pleasure in mind, body or soul, and similarly nourishes any part of me, it’s a win.

If I’m allowing pleasure upfront, the desire to indulge is gone. And if I’m aiming for nourishment, I’m going to stop when I’m full.

What I love about these scales is that it becomes necessary to notice the Joy and Growth in life, in order to measure where you are on the scales.

Another win.

I recently dove into this concept with a friend as we recorded the content for this year’s True You Christmas Stocking. I was so jazzed as we stumbled upon this paradigm that we’d both been trying out but didn’t have words for.

Now we have, and you have, the words to name it. So powerful.

So tune into this video (it’s only 3 1/2 minutes, easy peasy) and try this on for yourself.

Where are you ready to step onto a new pair of scales?



‘Twas 3 weeks before Christmas

I have a really good friend that I shared a flat with in London, and more laughs than I can count.

There was this one time you would’ve thought we were on crack. We had just moved, and had a futon that didn’t fit in the new place, so we left it outside in a skip (aka dumpster) further down our street. This futon was special, as it had served as my friend’s bed for the past 6 weeks.

One night we’re walking home and noticed the skip (and her bed) was gone. And we started bursting into our own rendition of Tiesto’s remix of Sureal – You Take My Breath Away.

Picture two girls walking down the streets of North West London belting out:

‘You took my bed away. I need a place to stay.

What more can I say? You took my bed away…’

You get the picture? 🙂

Fast forward 8 years and I found myself once remixing someone else’s work. This time I’m not singing it in my ‘hood, just shouting it from the rooftops 🙂

To mix business with pleasure feels so damn good.

So make yourself a cup of hot cocoa, curl up on the couch and savour this latest work of ‘art’ made just for you.

‘Twas Three Week Before Christmas…

Twas three weeks before Christmas and all through my house

The excitement is mounting, I wanna sing and shout…

True You Stockings are here!!! Made with all my love and care!

In hopes that your Christmas feels lighter than air!


Enough of guilt, shame, and pandering, helping everyone but you

It’s time for standing your ground, for living your truth!

Those thoughts you’ve been having that lead you to eat…

Need no more consume you. Now THAT is a treat!


Take care of your body. Be kind to your soul.

They’re precious. They’re prudent.They’re worth more than gold.

How do you do that? It’s so hard to remember

When you’re running around all through December



Put yourself on the gift list. YOU are a MUST!

Imagine this Christmas you felt light and free

Here is your answer. Put it under the tree.


Remember your worth is not based on ‘To Do’

It blossoms and grows, when you Say Yes to You

So my hope for you, is abundance and light.

That you have a real Christmas and a beautiful life.


True You Stockings really are here and ready for you to open. You can get your own here.