The Breaking Point

It was 5:30 am on Sunday morning. My husband rolled out of bed to go pee, and thinking that a pee would do me good and give me another peaceful 2 hours sleep, I got up too.

I climbed back into bed, eyes half open half shut, expecting he’d be there, but he wasn’t. He had thrown some trousers on and was halfway out the door, sensing something was wrong with the fish tanks in our garage.

And sure enough the floor was covered with water.

This wasn’t the first time and it won’t be the last.

The first time we had water all over the garage floor, a sense of dread and panic come over me. Something was wrong and not only did I not know how to fix it, I was of no help to my husband who could.

I felt useless. Practically part of the problem since I clearly wasn’t part of the solution.

This time I knew enough to know that we’d clean up the mess, figure out what the glitch was, and move on.

I’m still not part of the solution. But that’s OK too.

This particular time, without getting too technical here (mostly because I still don’t understand fully myself :)), we had a water-logged garage due to some electrical equipment failure.

One of the main pump’s capacitor failed.

What do you think? Broke or what?
What do you think? Broke or what?

It’s pretty clear by looking at it. Even you can tell it’s not supposed to be bent out of shape with it’s insides oozing out.

Apparently I don’t need to be an expert after all.

So yes, this is a nice little story about the early hours of my Sunday morning, but what’s my point here?

Earlier this week I was thinking about this capacitor as I was gardening. It served a purpose in a number of ways.

  1. It’s original purpose was ‘to temporarily store energy within unit’s system’ aka Regulate it.
  2. It’s failure was the signal that something not right.
  3. It’s failure prevented a fire.
  4. It’s failure taught my husband, and me, something new about the inner workings of the pump.

Does any of this sound familiar? It did to me. I realized we all have capacitors too. We usually just call them problems instead.

Think of yourself as the pump. You are expected to work, non-stop, 24-7, without a glitch.

Clearly that doesn’t work.

So how do we ensure that we don’t overwork ourselves?

We have internal regulators, that normally ‘temporarily store some of our energy’ until it’s ready to flow through us.  When they break, they signal to us that something is wrong, that we’ve reached capacity.

And it usually looks like some sort of problem; like something has broken.

  • Unexplainable weight gain or loss.
  • A pulled muscle out of the blue.
  • A complete resistance to do something that we ‘always’ do… write weekly blog posts, be at church every Sunday, go to the gym every night.
  • A blow-up with our partner or kids.
  • Work related stress that affects our health.

The normal response? ‘Crap! I’m broken again! I need to fix this as soon as possible but I don’t know how!’ And then the, ‘What’s wrong with me… I should be able to cope better, help out,  prevent this from happening.’

We feel useless, just like I did the first few times our garage flooded.

What if that wasn’t the case though? What if, this ‘problem’ was just the sign that we’ve reached full capacity. That something’s gotta give in order for life to flow better.

Now you don’t have to be the problem solver any more.

You get to see the problem as a gift. This is your heads up that something could be working better in your life, the signal that prevents a complete breakdown or fire, and the opportunity to learn something new about yourself.

You get to let the energy be stored, and flow through you, in a different way.

What do you think? Where are you at full capacity? What is the signal in your life that things aren’t flowing?

Would you like to replace your capacitor? Give yourself a a new outlook on life and let things flow smoother ? Click here to start.